10 Ways to Rekindle Your Relationship

Don't let the spark in your marriage die out! Keep the fire alive and exciting with these 10 Ways to Rekindle Your Relationship for a happy, lasting marriage.

How to Rekindle your Relationship

Once you’ve been married for a while, it’s easy to let that “spark” in your relationship fizzle. However, it’s important that you keep your marriage revitalized and happy so that you both feel wanted and appreciated.

Read on to find out 10 ways you can rekindle your relationship and never leave your partner feeling like the marriage is lacking.

10 Ways to Rekindle your Relationship

1. Cuddle together every night.

Bringing the spice back into your relationship isn’t always about being intimate in bed. Sometimes the two of you just need a little touch and affection. Practice cuddling together in bed for 10 minutes each night and morning. Go to bed together and wake up together in order to have these precious few minutes to connect before starting or ending the day.

2. Continue dating your spouse.

Not letting the fire die out is important in your marriage. Date nights may seem like they are simply for younger people or newer relationships, but even married couples need to get out without the kids and enjoy themselves sometimes! Try to have a date night at least once a month to keep that spark alive.

3. Buy some lingerie.

Men love seeing their lady in lingerie. Use this sparingly to spice up your relationship. It’s best done when he least expects it, such as a busy week at the office or after he’s rebounded from an illness or even just a headache. It doesn't need to be anything crazy either. It can just be new silky, strappy jammies, like these. Showing that you are taking the time to please him will go a long way in rekindling the fire!

4. Meet in the bathroom.

Most couples share a bathroom, but they don’t really take the time to utilize it for keeping their marriage strong. As you are both getting ready, use this shared space for a little romance. Nothing more than a few kisses and touches are needed, but it can really set the mood for your entire day.

5. Don’t stop the surprises.

Just a little effort to keep your spouse feeling loved and appreciated is great for rekindling your relationship. Bring her flowers after work, or cook his favorite dessert for after dinner. Light candles and offer a massage when your partner gets home, or complete a chore they usually do so they don’t have to. It really is the little things like these that matter in keeping your marriage happy and that spark alive and well. And surprises are what keeps life and relationships from being boring.

6. Take care of yourself.

It’s hard to keep your marriage alive when you are running on empty. It’s just as important to practice self-care as it is to be attentive to your spouse. Carve out some “me time” in your schedule each week, and use it to get a mani-pedi or a day at the spa or even just a relaxing, quiet bath or shower. Anything that helps you recharge so you can put forth the effort needed in your relationship.

7. Reconnect with memories.

When you and your spouse get caught up in the hustle of real life, it’s important to disconnect from the world and remember why you two are together. Slow down and pull out old photo albums. Reminisce over a cup of hot cocoa on the sofa. Remembering the fun times you have had together is sure to bring back that spark in your marriage.

8. Be attentive toward your spouse.

Simply acknowledging your spouse, their good qualities, and how much you appreciate them can really help to rekindle anything lost in your marriage. People need to feel wanted, so don’t ever leave your partner second guessing how you feel. When he/she has a problem, sit down and listen to help them through it. Put down your electronics and actually listen to your spouse! Look at them instead of your phone or TV to show them that they are the priority. Celebrate any accomplishments in their life too!

9. Reduce the stress in your life.

Worry and anxiety is one of the most common reasons for the fire dying in your marriage. It’s hard to be romantic or happy when you are stressing. Work hard to reduce your stress levels so that you have more time to keep the spark alive in your marriage. You can do this by taking care of yourself and taking moments to recharge. And if your worries are about money, you can read here about how to keep finances from ruining your marriage.

Discuss your feelings with your spouse so you never feel alone in your worries. Knowing you have someone on your side goes a long way in handling stress.

10. Get playful.

Life doesn’t have to be so serious all the time. Find fun ways to show your spouse how happy you are to spend your life with him. Pull out the pillows for a good old pillow fight, or attack those ticklish spots she hates. Being silly and having fun is one of the best ways to reconnect with your loved one.

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